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It can be very easy for someone to say “I love you” to another person. However, it is not quite as easy to display it and mean it. If you spend time thinking about whether a certain individual in your life truly loves and cares for you, take some time out to look for actions instead of just words.

Interests

If someone truly cares about you, he will display a strong interest in you as a person. For example, he will ask you about what you want out of life and your biggest hopes and aspirations.

He will want to know about your likes and dislikes and what motivates and inspires you in life. When a person has a keen interest in the inner workings of another person and truly cares for that person’s well-being, that shows true love.

Shared Happiness

If a person shares in your happiness with you, she loves you. When a relationship is entirely free of jealousy and competition, it is at an elevated level. Love relationships are those that share joy. If you pass a difficult examination and she supported you all the way through it and is as happy and excited as you are about the outcome, that indicates a true love situation.

Comfort

Another sign that someone loves you is if he is willing to give you comfort when you have endured a tough day. Comfort can mean anything from reassuring words to a big hug. Love is all about a person being there for another in the best and worst of times. If you can count on someone to comfort you and to be there for you when you are not feeling your best, that person really does love you.

Time Together

If an individual loves you deeply, one of her greatest pastimes is spending time with you, one-on-one. The time spent together doesn’t have to be centered around an elaborate plan or activity; it can simply be talking to you and enjoying your company. If a person always seems happy to see you, that indicates real love and caring.

Drama

If a person is willing to be patient with you and help you work through your personal drama, whether it’s about a major crisis at work or through a tense family situation, he loves you deeply. If you always feel that you have an ally in the toughest situations that life throws at you, that means love.

Attention

When a person is attentive to you and the casual little details of what you do and what you say, it means that she loves you. If she remembers small things you said to her in passing during conversation, or the color of the shirt you wore to a wedding last year, you are important to her and the things you do and say make a lasting impression on her.

Feelings

A lot of people do not like opening up to others about their innermost and most personal feelings. If a person shares with you all of his deepest thoughts and secrets, that shows trust, which in turn shows love.

You may come to the point where you’ve decided that your relationship no longer works, problems cannot be resolved and you want to end your marriage.

There are many questions about what the next step is and where to go from here. Working out these questions ahead of time with your partner can save a lot of time, expense and pain for both of you.

1. Create a plan before you discuss this with your partner. Decide what ground you’re willing to give in negotiations, like who will keep the house, who will move out, how to divide the assets, etc. Thinking about these things ahead of time will help you stay focused and manage the situation better.

2. Expect emotional fallout from your partner once you break the news. Presuming you know your partner extremely well, you probably have a good idea how she will react. Hopefully she will know this is coming so it won’t be a complete surprise. Still, the fact that you’ve put thought into it and created a plan can be a bit disconcerting to your partner.

3. Let your partner fully digest the information (be respectful and let him take some time to process, but not too long). Then make time to sit down together and rationally discuss the dissolution plan. It is mutually beneficial to work this out in advance of hiring legal counsel, because it becomes extremely costly once lawyers get involved.

4. Decide how you will both tell the children. Decide, if possible, such issues as who the children will live with, who will pay child support, how often the noncustodial parent will visit. Emphasize to the children that this is not their fault, and privately contain any disagreements between you and your partner. Read the rest of this entry »

No one said dating and romance would be easy, and no one likes a broken heart. How is it that some couples can sail right through every issue, while other couples are left wondering what went wrong? With a bit of patience and a lot of understanding, you too can overcome the problems that arise in your relationship.

Communication is Key

Express your needs and desires so she understands what you expect out of your relationship. If you are not up front with your partner, she could easily misinterpret your needs and problems will arise.

Don’t hesitate when letting your lover know what you desire inside and outside of the bedroom, and be up front about what you want. Only use the hints for your needs sparingly, and you’ll see she’ll appreciate your openness.

Honesty Goes a Long Way

Tell your partner exactly how you feel; never hide your true feelings from your lover. Doing so will cause mistrust within your relationship, and lead to more problems.

Explain yourself in a sincere way without passing judgements, or criticizing your partner. Sometimes the truth hurts, and your partner will appreciate your honesty if you tell him in a loving and supportive way.

Trust is an Issue

Learn to trust your partner. This can be a big step, but it is a vital one. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone untrustworthy, and if you find yourself unable to trust your lover even after trying, then it is time you move on. Trust between two people is earned, not given, and might be the biggest deal breaker in a couple.

Jealousy can be healthy for a relationship if it does not overstep its means. If you suspect your partner of cheating, don’t snoop or play private eye. Simply be honest about how you feel and your suspicions, and the results may surprise you. Trust and honesty go hand in hand, and having both in a relationship is nothing short of beneficial.

Patience is a Virtue

Slow down and take it easy when it comes to relationships. Jumping the gun on big decisions without weighing the pros and cons can be the end of something worthwhile. Sometimes taking a step back and not being so spontaneous can make things better in the long run.

Instead of moving in with your new beau after only a few months of dating, take a weekend trip together where you would have to live like a committed couple. Camping is always a classic way to see if living together would work, as it involves cooking meals, tending to a home environment, and working together for both of your comfort.

If the trip is a flop because of conflict, it is best you both spend a bit more time working on your relationship rather than planning a future together.

Chivalry Is Not Dead

Whisk your honey off on a romantic getaway; you won’t even have to leave the comforts of your own home if you cannot afford a trip away at this time. Treating your partner to a romantic night in can rekindle any dying flame. Surprise her with her favorite meal, complete with candlelight and soft music, and pop open a bottle of her favorite bubbly.

Watch the sparks fly when you do something special for your lover. Even a surprise bouquet of her favorite flowers, or a box of her favorite chocolates, can put you in her good graces for days on end. Read the rest of this entry »