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How do you know if a man loves you? What are the signs of true love? The following article will answer these questions.

Is It Mutual?

Love is not one-sided–it can only happen in the context of a relationship. If you’ve been admiring a man from afar, there’s a very good chance that he doesn’t love you. If you want to know if a man loves you, you have to interact with him.

Show him that you want to get to know him, and go on a few dates if he seems interested in you. And don’t confuse love with infatuation.

You may be drawn to him, but that doesn’t mean you love him. Love is something that will develop over time; it requires patience.

Don’t Hide Anything

Love is an act of will. It requires two flawed people to dedicate themselves to each other regardless of any imperfections the significant other may exhibit.

If you really want to know if he loves you, wear your heart on your sleeve. Don’t be a slob, but be honest about your flaws. True love is not shallow. If he knows about your flaws and still expresses his devotion to you, there’s a good chance that it might be love.

Love Languages

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five languages of love: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. If your love interest speaks to you through these methods of communication on a regular basis and without obligation, he probably loves you.

But remember that love is mutual, and he will probably only speak to you with these love languages if you speak back to him in the same language.

Love and Respect

Dr. Emerson Eggerichs describes the relationship between a man and a woman as the exchange of love and respect. That is, while a woman needs to feel the love of her man, he needs to feel that his woman respects him.

This may sound like a qualifier at first, but a man will not love a woman who doesn’t respect him. Of course, a woman will have a hard time respecting a man who doesn’t love her, but that brings us back to the necessity of mutuality within a loving relationship.

To know that he loves you, you must go out on an emotional limb and express your love for him sincerely. Only then will you be able to find out if he loves you too.

How do you know if a loving relationship is real love or merely an infatuation based on some physical attraction? This article may help you make a decision whether your loving relationship is real love or just a fascination.

Figure It Out

1. Figuring out why you enjoy being with your partner can go a long way in determining if this is true love or just an infatuation.

One needs to examine if her partner makes her feel giddy and excited about spending time with them, or is the time you spend together mediocre at best.

2. Question how your partner makes you feel. In a true love relationship, you look forward to spending time with this person and know you cannot consume him.

Infatuation relationships usually involve at least one person wanting to consume the other person, demanding all of his time and attention so he cannot have friends or perform his work.

3. Supporting one other is easy in a true love relationship but it gets shaky in an infatuation relationship.

True love relationships have partners who compromise while infatuation relationships usually consist of one half of the couple doing all the compromising.

4. Being comfortable in all areas is a sign of true love but, in infatuation relationships, something is missing. Is the relationship a total relationship where you support each other in all ways in the bedroom as well as outside the bedroom?

True love encompasses all activities for the couple; they are the ones who hold hands in public as well as in the bedroom. In an infatuation relationship, it doesn’t seem that all the needs are satisfied for the couple in all of these areas.

5. Having clear, open, honest communication is part of true love but in infatuation, it simply is not present. The couple who is in true love can have peaceful silences as well as heated debates and it’s fine either way.

The infatuated couple does not have the ease of open, honest communication. Usually one or both of them is simply too scared to admit to honest feelings.