Dating and Relationship

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Ah, the dreaded dating scene. Who doesn’t know the horrors of awkward silences, strange looks and weird body collisions? But not to worry-like anything else in life, dating gets better with practice. All you need is some improvement of dating skills to alleviate some of the terrors of dating, so the experience can be what it should be: a time to kick back and relax with a new person.

1. Know thyself. Start off by thinking about your strengths and weaknesses on dates. Only once you understand what you can improve (and what you should just leave alone) can you begin to make advances in your dating skills.

2. Date as often as you feel comfortable. Like anything else, people improve their dating skills with practice. This doesn’t mean you should schedule 8 dates a week but, if you want to improve dating skills, take up opportunities to go on dates as they arise.

3. Watch an expert at work. If you know someone who is renowned for their dating skills, try to set up a double date to watch someone apply a personal style to dating. Don’t try to emulate the person. Just observe to gain some tips and pointers to improve your own dating skills.

4. Be honest with your date. While asking directly about your dating skills is not the best way to get a fruitful answer, raising a conversation about the date itself is. Try to talk with your date about how things went and what he or she liked and disliked in order to get an idea of your success. Remember, though, this is a conversation packed with potential awkwardness, so keep it light and casual.

From picking up your prospective date to going out on that crucial first date, the social scene can be stressful and nerve-racking. You have to consider a lot of things, such as conversation topics to avoid those awkward and uncomfortable moments, as well as making a good first impression. Dating can only be successful if you handle the situation with confidence and set realistic goals.

Avoid Bars

One of the most challenging and difficult parts of dating is looking for a place where you can meet other people. Most people go to the bar or pub, trying to look for the woman or man of their dreams.

However, a bar isn’t the best place to meet potential dates as liquor tends to erase a person’s inhibitions and provides a false sense of confidence. More often than not, this pickup venue will lead to nothing or giving out numbers to someone who is not your type or won’t call.

Join Clubs and Organizations

Try participating in social clubs or organizations. Choose a club that you are interested in. For instance, you can join a hiking club if you are the adventurous and outdoorsy type, or you can join a book or yoga club if you prefer less physical activities.

You can ask friends in your local community for organizations or clubs that they would recommend. Such clubs can be an ideal place to meet like-minded people who could become potential date material.

Make a Good First Impression

First dates are crucial because this is the time when you have to make a good first impression. If your first date turns out to be awkward, chances are you will not see that person again. However, it can be challenging to create a good first impression given the stress and anxiety that you feel because of your expectations on the date itself. If you want to create a good first impression, go on a date with an open mind.

Do not set high expectations for yourself or from your date. Setting a high expectation, or any expectation for that matter, will only lead to disappointment and frustration.

There is the possibility that this date may not lead to romance, but it could turn into a budding friendship. Be confident and be yourself. You are there to get to know the person and vice versa. When an awkward situation arises, just laugh it off. Chances are, your date is also as nervous as you. Read the rest of this entry »