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The ability to successfully navigate the waters of dating takes courage, commitment and confidence. Whether it’s your first trip out out to sea, or you’re back out looking for other fish, some tips from people who’ve been there before can help make the trip a little less turbulent.

Tip #1: Share Selectively

Giving out too much information about yourself too soon can get uncomfortable fast. Generally, progress from talking about things, to ideas, to feelings and behaviors.

Keep the conversation during first or second dates to light subjects, such as places you’ve been, cars you like and restaurants that have interesting foods. Slowly move into other areas.

Once you establish a solid foundation, ease into subjects that include past romantic history, embarrassing behavior you may have experienced and your finances.

Moving into a level of intimacy too fast can scare off a reserved potential mate.

Tip #2: Don’t Compare

Don’t compare your date to an ex. Save the comparisons for when you’re shopping for car insurance.

Tip #3: Scorecards Are Meant for Bowling

When your girlfriend complains that you didn’t tell her you were inviting another couple along on your date, don’t bring up the time she brought her little sister to the movies with you.

Bringing up old offenses to defend your behavior is immature and shows that you haven’t forgiven her for her previous grievance. Rather, ask her why it bothers her and be willing to apologize and/or compromise.

Tip #4: Don’t Be A Hypocrite

Don’t complain to your boyfriend about something you do, too. Hypocrisy is unattractive and breeds resentment.

Tip #5: Change Is for the Meter

Don’t continue dating someone in hopes they will change a behavior that you just can’t stand. Tell her why her behavior bugs you and see if it changes. If her behavior is a deal breaker, end it sooner rather than later.

Tip #6: Hiding From Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is the foundation of a good relationship. If you clam up when your boyfriend talks about jealousy toward your ex, he may feel he’s the only one sharing. Comments like, “Whatever” or “I don’t care” relay an attitude that says, “I don’t really want to get to know you better.” Read the rest of this entry »