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The word “heterosexual” entered the Dorland’s Medical Dictionary in 1901 as the “abnormal or perverted appetite toward the opposite sex.” The “craving” of the opposite sex for any reason other than procreation was not generally accepted and was an unsanctioned practice of the middle class through the early 1900s.

Definition

Heterosexuality is an attraction to members of the opposite sex. The word, however, can refer to a friendly relationship with a member of the same sex.

Though heterosexual relationships are common today, many past societies completely rejected heterosexuality and considered it devious, according to research from Fordham University.

Before the 1960s, sexual intercourse wasn’t considered legitimate until after marriage. The word “heterosexual” entered the Merriam Webster dictionary in 1923.

Marriage

In the 1950s, heterosexual marriage usually occurred among women between 19 and 21 years old. In the 1990s, the common age was between 25 and 27. Marriage is meant to make the love two people feel for each other permanent, public and official.

Marriage is considered by most societies as a means to create a family and procreate. Until recently, marriage was only permitted to occur in the United States between members of the opposite sex. Some states still only allow heterosexual marriage.

Desire

Alfred Kinsey, sexual researcher and founder of the Institute for Sex Research in 1942, said people aren’t necessarily just heterosexual or homosexual. He said an entirely heterosexual or homosexual person is very uncommon, noting most people’s sexual desire fall somewhere between the extremes.

The controversial study was released in 1948, at a time when human sexuality was rarely discussed. As of 2011, there is no conclusive evidence about what determines a person’s desire. Read the rest of this entry »

Starting a new relationship is both wonderful and tricky. You are infatuated your partner and you love being around him all the time.

Your partner makes you happy and it seems like you make him happy as well. However, there seems to be a disconnect in your new relationship bliss: your partner wants to have sex with you and you don’t feel ready.

This might be your first time, or you decided that because this person is so special to you, you don’t want to rush things. Whatever the reason, you have the right to wait as long as you feel necessary. It’s your body and it’s your decision.

1. Don’t do sleepovers. If you don’t want to have sex, you shouldn’t put yourself and your partner in situations when sex will be an option.

Stay away from your partner’s place when you are finished with your date and just go home. You should also wait for romantic getaways or trips which require you to spend the night together.

2. Don’t get drunk. Drinking while trying your hardest to keep sex from happening with the person you care about and find attractive is not a smart idea. Alcohol could get the best of you both by clouding your judgment, and once you cross that line there is no turning back.

3. Make an excuse your partner is likely to believe. If you do end up sharing a bed and your partner is making it clear they want to have sex, you should have an excuse at hand. You can always say that you are not feeling well, or are tired and have to get up early in the morning. However, lying is not a good way to start a relationship so consider if it’s worth it.

4. Be honest with your partner. This is your best option if you want to continue having an open and loving relationship. Explain to your partner that while you care for him, you are just not ready for sex and would like to wait until you are. Even if this sounds corny, if your partner really likes you, he will have no problem respecting your wishes.