Dating and Relationship

Archive for the ‘Divorce’ Category

The abandonment of a child can occur in a variety of ways. In some cases, it is a literal neglect, when parents fail to give a child the love and support he needs.

In other cases, abandonment can impact a child as a result of a lack of regular contact with parents due to divorce or a long-term illness, for instance.

Abandonment can have a number of consequences, which can be both relatively immediate and long-term.

Family Units Altered

Abandonment has a lasting effect not just on children, but on the entire family unit, often altering its rules, systems and roles.

For example, in the case of one parent leaving the care of a child to the other, the latter becomes sole guardian and his role is enlarged; the child or children become dependent on him.

Older children may act more like adults to cope with the hole left by the departing parent. In some cases, family members may develop anxieties stemming from such changes, according to Break the Cycle.

Emotional Hurt

Abandonment can result in a plethora of emotional troubles for affected children, both in the short and long term. If abandonment happens suddenly, a child is likely to be shocked and confused.

Abandonment may cause a child to feel the parents’ action was her fault, potentially leading to guilt and even shame. Feelings of grief anger are also possible in these situations.

Lack of Identity Formation

The lack of a parent can have a long-term impact on how a child relates to his gender. One duty of a parent is to ensure kids come to terms with the implications their gender in a mature fashion, something that is often performed by setting a suitable example of how to behave toward others, whether of the same or different gender.

For instance, young boys generally require a father figure to aid them in handling their developing masculinity, and this development may be stunted by the absence of a father figure. Read the rest of this entry »

Many people are often very surprised when a couple who has been together for many years decides to get a divorce. However, those who have been married for a long time should not feel pressured to stay together just because they have made things work for a while. If a couple is experiencing certain conflicts in their marriage, it may be better to get a divorce.

Abuse

Abuse takes many forms in a marriage, including verbal, physical, mental or sexual abuse. For many couples, the abuse has been present throughout their entire relationship, but perhaps one member of the couple dealt with the abuse.

For other couples, abuse begins very late in the marriage. In either situation, it is important for the victim to realize that it is never to late to end the marriage and begin focusing on relationships that are far more healthy.

Affair

Sometimes a married person falls in love with someone else. One spouse may have intimate relations with another person or simply develop strong passionate feelings for another person that the other spouse cannot tolerate.

Although some couples are able to make their relationships work after an affair, many long-term marriages end because one spouse has not been faithful to the other. If you cannot think of a way to heal your marriage after an affair, end it before things become out of control.

Alcohol or Drug Abuse

Many long-term marriages are completely devastated by drug or alcohol addiction. A spouse who is addicted to drugs or alcohol and abuses these substances frequently becomes a danger to his spouse and children. If you want to work things out, consider asking your partner if he would consider rehabilitation. If the problem cannot be solved, it may be better to end the marriage before your family suffers any further severe pain. Read the rest of this entry »

There is nothing fun about a divorce as you all may know. However, if you are going to divorce someone, you may as well win right? Reading this article will teach you how to win a divorce.

1. File for a fault divorce. If you want to win a divorce at all, you have to start by filing a fault divorce. Thirty-five states allow a spouse to select either a no fault or a fault divorce.

However, if you expect a divorce to get down and dirty as most of them usually are you should file for a fault divorce. In some states, a spouse who proves the other at fault may receive a greater share of property or more money in alimony.

The most common grounds for fault divorce are cruelty, adultery, desertion, physical inability to have sex (if not disclosed before marriage) and/or imprisonment.

2. Keep your faults to a minimum. If you have plans on filing for a divorce or are in the middle of the process it is very important to keep faults to a minimum. Commonly, 70 percent of divorces are very bitter either because there is so much at stake or the two spouses don’t like each other.

If this sounds like your divorce and then it is recommended that you basically walk on eggshells because if you do anything that you can be held on in court such as adultery your chances of winning the divorce (alimony or property) go way down.

One way to keep your faults to a minimum is to separate yourself from your spouse until the divorce is final, and make sure you are living on your own and remember that you are still married.

3. Protect your assets with a premarital agreement. If you are very rich and have a lot of premarital property and money, you should definitely protect your property in the event of a divorce. Sometimes, drafting a premarital agreement can protect all or some of the property you brought into the marriage.

One reason you may want to draft a premarital agreement is because you might get into a bitter divorce with your spouse and if your property comes up after 15 years of marriage, some or all of your property and/or assets will be protected.

If you need help with or think you need to have a premarital agreement drafted, you need to talk this over with your family lawyer.